[RANT] Our Younger Generation

[Volimius]

Thing which pisses me off the most- when people don't say please or thank you- the most common and basic manners which require no effort)

freaking yes.
Went to hand out presents yesterday to the needy in a poor town with some other volunteers. I was handing out bikes and I have not received any thank you from a good 3/4 of both the kids and parents. Thanks very much for bringing it up

The golden rule while being so helpful and kind - Don't expect a gratitude.


Let me bring up one example:

I receive an order, time limit of completion "ASAP", ie. "Yesterday". We call each other to get along, it turns out that the work will be very big and no one else will do it, just me. I sit down to the computer and start with a "smoke" - it's my job. But i think everytime - why always me, why always in a hurry - but in the end it's still my job so i don't lose motivation and continue working. In the end, time passes, i finish the job, hone the details with German precision and then another thought runs through my head: "Don't hone it so much, because no one would notice it and certainly no one will thank you." But whatever, i still have some time so i'll do the best i can. I finished and i'm satisfied. I know i did a good job, regardless of whether someone will appreciate it.

On the one hand, you can expect that someone at the beggining should say, that he will be very grateful, or that it's really important for further development of the company, so we can expect some reward. But then the work would look completely diferent. It would be done only "for the carrot" and not because to do it well. Satisfaction wouldn't be the same. Motivating factor would be completely different.

Now i know that we shouldn't expect gratitude. While it's worth thanking others, we shouldn't come up with claims when doing good (even doing our job honestly). When we do it selflessly, good returns to us and enriches, although not always in the material form and not always immedietaly. When we always expect some payment for our goodness, we are not going to feel better or richer.

Then, when i finished that order, i was tired, but happy and i started a new weekend with satisfcation. When i returned on Monday, i saw already a new message on my gmail account, a satisfied customer with gratitude: "Erwin you're awesome!". It tasted even better than i had expected, because "i did what i should do".

True dat.